Trauma Therapy

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Does it Seem Like Something’s Missing In Your Life, But You’re Not Sure Why?

Do you feel like you’re not good enough, no matter how much you do and how much you achieve? 

Is self-doubt holding you back from going after your dreams? 

Do you ever wonder if your struggles are because of trauma from your past?

Maybe you’ve asked yourself if there’s trauma in your life, but each time, you tell yourself “My experience wasn’t that bad” or “Other people have it worse.” Nonetheless, you still feel that something isn’t quite right. Maybe you’re realizing that you’re just not living your authentic life.  Even though you may be accomplished, you still don’t feel good enough. For the first time, you may be seriously considering that your struggles are connected to trauma.

There is a common misconception that trauma is when something “bad” happens to us. However, emotional trauma often arises because of the good things that did not happen enough in our younger years.

Trauma Makes You Constantly Seek Approval And Validation From Others  

Low self-esteem often goes hand in hand with emotional trauma. Emotional abandonment from parents is a form of emotional trauma, since it leaves you with this sense of not being good enough. For example, if your parents didn’t spend enough quality time with you, that may have sent an indirect message that you’re not important enough or worthy of their time. 

As a result, you might constantly seek approval and validation from others. Perhaps you struggle with people-pleasing and many of your actions are motivated by a deep fear of rejection. When a new job promotion or potential relationship comes along, you might walk away out of fear of not being good enough.  

Eventually, this kind of life could make you feel disconnected from your authentic self. Because you’re constantly looking for outside validation, you don’t feel truly connected to your wants and needs. 

If this is how you feel, we encourage you to take heart. With the right help and support, it’s possible to improve your self-esteem and heal the pain of the past. Here at Inner Healing Therapy, our goal is to help you heal the parts of you that trauma wounded so that you can get back to having more inner peace and living more authentically.  

“The cry we hear from deep in our hearts comes from the wounded child within. Healing this inner child’s pain will transform negative emotions.”

– Thich Nhat Hanh

Many Of Us Carry Emotional Wounds From Our Childhood Without Even Realizing It  

When we were children, many of our parents were focused on meeting our basic needs for food, clothing, shelter, and education. In the meantime, however, our emotional needs often went unrecognized. Most of us were seeking the answers to these questions from our parents: 

Do you see me for who I am?  

Do you hear me?

Am I good enough just the way I am?  

Am I worthy of your undivided time and attention?  

Do you love me unconditionally?  

Some of us grew up without having these questions answered. As a result, many of us carry emotional wounds into adulthood because of the unconditional love and acceptance we didn’t receive as kids.  

Trying To Work Through Trauma Alone Isn’t Always Possible—Sometimes We All  Need Extra Support 

We live in a highly individualistic society—we’re taught to pull ourselves up by the bootstraps  and tough it out on our own. Men, in particular, are often told to be strong, stoic, and independent. This stereotype discourages many men from seeking help when they need it. Because they’ve learned to associate vulnerability with weakness, most of them are afraid to reach out for support.  

The problem is that trauma isn’t something you can just overcome by “toughing it out.” It simply does not work that way, no matter how strong or independent you are. Trauma is an emotional wound, and just like a physical wound, it won’t heal if you ignore it. To truly heal the pain of the past, sometimes you need the support of someone who’s deeply compassionate and knowledgeable about how trauma works.

Therapy Can Help You Heal Your Inner Child And Put The Pain Of Trauma Behind You 

Some forms of trauma come about because of unmet emotional needs from our childhood or teenage years. Remember that trauma is not only about the “bad” things that happen to us. Trauma is also about the good things that we did not get enough of as children (e.g., being seen and heard and accepted for who we were, being told that it is okay to make mistakes, etc.).

In therapy, you have the chance to meet those emotional needs by connecting with your inner child and healing your emotional wounds. You will learn to show love to the parts of yourself that didn’t receive love when you were young. Your therapist will be there to guide you every step of the way, making sure you feel seen, heard, and accepted for who you are.  

If you don’t have someone that you can safely share your story with, we’ll hold your story sacred and help you understand that you’re not alone in your pain. You don’t have to struggle in silence. There are so many other people who think like they’re not enough—and many of them are incredibly gifted and accomplished just like you. We’re confident that we can help you overcome feelings of not-enough-ness and put the pain of the past behind you once and for all! 

What To Expect In
Trauma Counseling Sessions

At Inner Healing Therapy, we will help you uncover your unmet emotional needs and give you the skills to reparent your emotionally wounded inner child. Through guided visualizations, role plays, journaling, letter writing, and other exercises, you will learn to connect with your inner  child and practice showing them the healing power of unconditional love and acceptance.  

For instance, your therapist might ask you to close your eyes, visualize your younger self, and think of what you’d tell them if you stood face to face with them right now. You’ll learn to practice reminding your inner child that they’re lovable and good enough just the way they are. By doing this consistently, you can start to heal the emotional scars of the past and begin the process of self-acceptance.

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This work can help you in so many ways. It can help you notice connections between the past  and the present that you didn’t see before. You can begin to break out of unhealthy patterns that no longer serve you, such as drinking, isolating, or distracting yourself to cope with your trauma. 

Imagine living your life feeling at peace with yourself, with no need for the approval and validation of others. At the moment, this kind of life may be hard to picture. But by doing the work of healing your inner child and processing through the pain of the past, you absolutely can move on to a brighter tomorrow and live your most authentic life. Trauma takes away your power—we want to help you get it back! 

You May Have Some Questions About Trauma Therapy…  

What if I get overwhelmed with emotions by talking about the past?  

Remember that therapy is a safe space where you can explore your feelings at your own pace. Your therapist is there to support you, not judge you or rush you through the process of trauma recovery. It’s okay to take small steps and share only what you’re comfortable with. Take all the time you need—and remember that healing is a gradual process.  

What kind of changes should I be prepared for after doing the inner child healing  work? 

Change is often a natural outcome of healing. It may involve shifts in your perspective, your coping skills, and even your relationships. Sometimes this may mean letting go of old behaviors, but that process of letting go is never forced—it’s something that happens naturally and organically after you’ve worked through your emotional trauma. You and your therapist can discuss any lifestyle changes together to make sure you’re comfortable with the progress you’re making. 

I have trust issues because of past trauma. Can I trust my therapist? 

Building trust is such an important aspect of what we do. We are here to listen without judgment and create a space where you can safely and openly express your joys and sorrows. We will honor your concerns and boundaries so that you feel comfortable trusting us with your story. We  know that trauma isn’t easy to talk about, and that’s why therapy will always move at a pace that’s right for you. 

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It’s Time To Show Yourself The Love You’ve Been Missing 

Despite what past negative experiences may have told you, we want you to know that you are enough. Our mission is to help you realize this for yourself, bringing a newfound sense of self love and self-compassion into your life. To connect with one of our trauma counselors, you can  use the contact page or call 818-748-9977 to book a free 15-minute phone consultation.

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